The long and the short of it is that I
have some understanding of what they deal with and what they're going
through. I wouldn't pretend to know exactly, but I've heard their
complaints about various bits and pieces. I have worked with a Trans
Mage, and that's when I started thinking “Is there anything that
can be done, Magickally, that might be helpful to people undergoing
Transition?” I was sure that the answer was “yes”.
And I started thinking that surely
someone has written about this topic in the past. What I did
find was a GDOBA. I found a question- “Are there any magickal
rituals or whatever to help with Transition?” The only “real”
answer given to the question was “Don't use magick for this. It
won't help anything.” It was a principled, solid, and logical
answer. And it basically said “Don't”. And I also found a load of
bollocks about people wanting spells to shift genders at will.
Yeah, that was my reaction too. But I
also found someone had been selling rings on ebay promising that they
would be changing your gender almost overnight.
I swear, if I ever find the person who
put that load of tripe up on ebay I will beat them to a pulp. There
is NO kind of spell or talisman that will make you into the
person you always should have been from the get-go. The person
scamming these people... Yeech.
But I have sat down and given some
thought to the issue. And some of these methods have helped the Mage
I've been working with after I suggested them. Others are just ideas.
I'll be entirely open and honest: This article is not designed to
change you overnight. It's promising no miraculous results. It's just
offering ideas to help, based on what I've been told happens and what
I've seen. Take the advice or leave it; I'm making no money from
this, but if it does help to make someone's life a little
easier, or miss out on some painful part, then I'll consider what
I've written here a positive result.
- Bin your Genius and Daimon.
I'm serious. Really, If you're already
a practising sorcerous person, you'll have calculated the names of
your Genius and Daimon and will have bound one and exalted the other.
I've done it myself. (I'll be including the oh-so-helpful links to
the necessary websites at the end of this.) But here we have an
interesting query to TG readers: Are you the same person you were
before you came out, or are you a whole new person?
One person I asked about this was of
the opinion that there was direct continuity from the person they
were to the person they are now. Another won't even think of their
old name any more. However, I do know that there have been some
distinct personality shifts in the person I was talking to since
their coming out. I can honestly say that they are not, now, the
person that they were when I first met them. (But I love them all the
same!) So my thoughts tend towards “They are a new person”.
So, what you should do is take note of
the date that you officially came out, and then (if you have the time
as well) use that, along with the place, to cast the horoscope for
that time, and then calculate those essential parts of you for the
person that you are now. I can't think of coming out as transgender,
and living as the gender you should be, as anything other than
literally starting a new life as a new person. And thus the Genius
and Daimon will change.
For those of you who think that this is a damned good idea and can't be that bad an idea to at least try, even if you're not a practicing magus of any kind, then all you have to do is first, generate your Natal Chart. Obviously, for the purposes of this exercise, the time and date that you came out as Trans. This website will do all the hard work for you.
Once you've got your chart, go to this exceptionally handy Genius and Daimon name generator and put the relevant parts into it. Yes, you're going to get stuck. Because you're going to start putting the degrees and signs in and then you're going to look and think "What's a Part of Fortune? Come to that, that the hell is a Prenatal Syzygy- and how do I pronounce it?!" Well, the Part of Fortune is another calculation, that can be done simply and easily by going here, and putting the right info into the boxes. Once you have that, you add that to the Name Calculator.
Once you have all of those, you can then make a note of the names. Frater RO recommends inscribing the name of the Daemon in iron and then sealing it in molten lead. It's a little simpler and more practical to freeze it in a block of ice. Sprinkled with salt, and an iron nail across it. As for your Genius- exalt it. Make a shrine for it, light candles and incense around it. Make it feel welcome!
- Keep balanced
Right... so your body is now getting to
grips with having a whole slew of new, unexpected hormones rampaging
in your system. Emotional catastrophes potentially ahoy. Anger and
sorrow and all manner of feelings are going to be kicking off and out
and up and at random. Some people doubtless handle it better than
others. Some people won't.
So I'd say that you need to do some
kind of Balancing exercise for yourself, spiritually and emotionally.
For myself (if I were taking that route) I would recommend the Middle
Pillar exercise. I know someone who swears by the Stele of Jeu. But
whatever your background, whatever your tradition, surely there's
something that you can use to keep yourself on an even keel
and stay a cheerful, calm, and balanced person, yes? And there's
always Tai Chi, or Yoga, and similar. Even just plain meditation.
- Get in touch with your Deities.
This one may not be quite so much of an
obvious one. Take a good, long look at your spiritual path. Find the
spirit, or God, or Goddess that best exemplifies the sort of person
you want to be. In the whole mass/mess of spirits and deities out
there, you are bound to find one that epitomises the characteristics
that you want to have for yourself during/after transition.
Find this spirit, call on it/Pray to it, and ask for said spirit to bless you and guide you to the place you want to be, to the person you want to be. Simple as that. And maybe you'll find yourself making the choices more often that you need to to become exactly what you want- or close enough to it as to make no difference.
Find this spirit, call on it/Pray to it, and ask for said spirit to bless you and guide you to the place you want to be, to the person you want to be. Simple as that. And maybe you'll find yourself making the choices more often that you need to to become exactly what you want- or close enough to it as to make no difference.
I will take a moment to point out here
that anyone who picks a deity that has the body shape that you want
and the temperament that you want to have you should also make sure
that you read all the ways it can manifest. I take no responsibility
for anyone who ends up with fur, whiskers, and bemoaning the fact
that they don't have pretty spots- you should have checked beforehand
that this one didn't normally manifest as a leopard.(Although I doubt that that will happen, really. But still- caveat emptor!)
- Subtle Bodies Shouldn't Be.
The soul manifests in the way it
should. So if you are, say, a Woman born in a Man's body, you'll
manifest on the Astral as a Woman. So what you need, what you want,
is to be able to see your subtle body. Try and get more
correspondence between the subtle and physical bodies!
So for this, you need to use some
technique for calling your subtle/energy body to overlay your own
body. Become more visible as to who and what you really are. I've
not been able to dig up any specific rites for this, but as soon as I
do, you can believe that I'll be putting it up. Although I'm, pretty
certain that a modified Glamour charm could do the job in question.
And talking of which...
- Glamours FTW
Glamours are not just spells for making
yourself prettier. They're also spells to distract and redirect. This
is related to the “Contact Deities” section further up- but on a
more basic level.
Glamours are probably the most useful
little bit of magick you can learn. And also, likely, the easiest.
(If you can get Glamour spells in Titania's Ridiculously Fluffy
Spellbooks, then anyone can use one.) Glamours are ideal for
deflecting attention from those things that you don't want noticing.
In fact, they can even leave a person thinking of what you would
prefer them to. So a Glamour can leave someone thinking of you as
exactly as you'd like, rather than them remembering anything you'd
rather they didn't pick up on.
I'm only suggesting this method until a person is actually fully aware, and confident of what they can do. Glamours should not be relied on too much, but they can give you a little edge.
I'm only suggesting this method until a person is actually fully aware, and confident of what they can do. Glamours should not be relied on too much, but they can give you a little edge.
- Conman's Combo
I've posted about this earlier on my
Blog. I think the Conman's Combo, as it makes people more open to you
and more trusting of you, could be very useful, as it may smooth
things over for other people. Although I do recommend the Conman's
Combo anyway, I'm not suggesting that you should use it to directly
con people, but if it makes you more eloquent- which could be useful
in Speech/Voice training- that could be a definite plus as well.
My post on the Conman's Combo can be found here.
Please, if anyone who reads this has
any constructive criticism to what I've said, do not hesitate to
comment. If you have any other ideas that could be added to this
list, feel free to chip in!
Any Transphobic comments will be
deleted, naturally. And severely Transphobic comments will be noted, framed, and the names used by offenders may well be passed round to others who would like to know who is and isn't a Bigot. I trust I have made myself clear.
If you have been, give yourself a round of applause.
